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A Double Double Dose of Kindness: One Tim Hortons Patron's Answer To World Peace?
Sep 27 , 2015
Category: lifestyle

"Oh she's a whale, oh the whale needs to eat.'"
~words used as weapons by

anonymous Tim Hortons patrons~




Kill them with kindness is hardly an innate response to a personal threat but with practice, could it be? Should it be?

Well, it worked so well for a Tim Hortons Patron in Michigan that her story has reached and potentially has changed the viewpoints of millions through social media.

While standing in line with her daughter, Dianne Hoffmeyer overheard a few women who, standing behind her, were whispering derogatory comments about her weight.

Her reaction? Buy them a cup of coffee. Then post her story on Facebook.

While she received much support for her actions, those weaponlike words still managed to damage her, causing her emotions to go rogue and unleash a flood of tears; To be likened to a whale after losing 177 pounds, how could they not?

But she chose kindness instead of verbal violence to set an example for her 22 month old daughter who, although young, still witnessed and, in her own way, absorbed the energy around her.

While nobody knows the impact her kind actions had on the two women who tried to fat-shame her, her viral story just might make others think twice before wielding their toxic tongues.

...And so, it got me thinking...Maybe the “them” in Killing Them with Kindness refers not to bad PEOPLE but to bad ACTIONS…and if so, could this be the means to finding world peace?

I’m not saying buying a cup of coffee for someone who taunts you will put you in the same league as Nobel Peace Prize Laureate Nelson Mandela... but, in his words,"
if you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner."


...If faced with a similar situation, what would you do?

Tags: Dianne Hoffmeyer /  Tim Hortons Michigan /  Pay it forward /  VOCM /  Claudette Barnes / 

Comments (total comments:4)
Pleasingly plump :

i find that the ones critizing other peoples looks or weight are not at all as happy as the ones they are bashing. i worked with a person who was always counting calories, always looking at fat content in everything that went in her mouth, never lost an ounce & was definitely not a happy person. the ones with a bit of extra flesh on their bones always seems to be the happiest. stop criticizing other peoples appearance & do something about your own crabby ways.

Posted: 10/2/2015 8:29:11 AM
Tlr :

it reminds me one time i was at my sister in laws and there was a crowd around and ive always had a weight problem and i was on the phone and heard the one sister say look at the size of her legs meaning me and the other sister told her to shhh but i heard her and made me feel really sad,i feel people should keep their rude comments to themselves because there is no one in this world that is perfect,and we all cant be slim and trim..and they say kids can be mean i think adults can be just as mean....so very sad

Posted: 9/29/2015 8:29:27 AM
Al :

this story reminds me of a few years back when i overheard a conversation between coworkers in a large store.one young lady looked shocked and saddened after she took a sip of her soft drink and was quickly scolded in no uncertain terms by her small 60 something coworker that she should stop drinking pop and maybe lose some weight.well i had to bite my tongue as i wished i was the manager of that store.the young lady with the soft drink may have been somewhat overweight,but she was very good looking and nice to the customers.unlike her seemingly lean mean coworker.you can show all the kindness in the world to those type of self satisfied folks.however they are unlikely to respond in the same manner.

Posted: 9/28/2015 6:39:00 PM
Marie :

words are very hurtful and very hard to forget...give me a slap in the face and my face will heal. this woman''s reaction was one that most people would never do. i honestly don''t know what i would of done..but buying these women coffee wouldn''t of been one of them. knowing me i might of turned around and told them that they just looked lovely today and to have a great day!! god bless this woman she is definitely a quiet soul.

Posted: 9/28/2015 8:36:31 AM

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